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If you are considering changing your current therapist, please take your time and talk about your concerns with your current therapist.

Sometimes we all seek change when something is not comfortable to us and that can simply mean progress with your current therapist has hit a bit of a stall. There are often very good reasons for a stall. One may be your own method of self-pacing. Discomfort with your present therapist can signal many things, some of which may not be related to the therapy or therapist. Perhaps you need time to reflect on things you have been working on together. Perhaps a slow down in the pace of therapy before you undertake the next step is a good idea. If you needed a bit of self-pacing, changing therapists will not solve the issue behind it.

Sometimes therapy stalls over a pocket of resistance.

There's usually a reason for hitting a pocket of resistance. We all hit them from time to time. It could be related to you or an aspect of yourself or it could be related to the relationship with your therapist or it could be related to the traumatic material you are working on together. It may be as simple as a misunderstanding. The hallmark of a solid relationship with your therapist is the ability to work through and talk about what might be contributing to your discomfort. Remember, therapy is comprised of two people working together in a relationship that is like no other. It is deeply personal and yet it is professional. More importantly, it involves two human beings and there is no such thing as perfection in any relationship.

Take the time to talk to your current therapist about what you need and why you may be seeking change. Changing therapists is not an easy task. You are essentially starting over with someone else and will spend a good bit of time and money building the relationship first and getting back to where you were when you left your prior therapist. Those types of changes can present disruptions and be personally challenging.

Remember, you can always make a change.

Just be sure it is for the right reasons for your benefit. You might want to consult with another therapist first. The point is, know why you seek change and if you do decide to make a change, please take the time to interview several therapists. If it is in your best interest to make a change, undertake that challenge. Your health is in your hands and these are your choices. Make them for your best benefit. A good current therapist who has your best interests in mind will generally always support you in making changes that reflect your best interest.